The passing of my dad....

My dad passed away on the 7th of January 2009. It was very heart wrenching to see him go before your eyes. He looked so weak...

As they say...its best that the white hair does not send the black hair ahead of them, and although its him who goes before us, it was still a very sad event for my family.

On Saturday we had to prepare prayers for him and also i had to go to the church and also had my wife pray for my family.

On Sunday morning we went to pray and pay our respects to my dad at his final resting place in Kg. Tunku's Guan Yin Crematorium/Cemetery. I chose the place for the ease of access for my mother. She had wanted to lay him to rest in Nilai, but i thought it too far for her to visit him.

We laid out his favourite food for him and also had a short chat with him. I guess i did the best i could as a son, i gave him a grandchild and made him as happy / contented as i can. The place is quite picturesque, but i am not allowed to take pictures there my daughter even said she sees a giraffe in the sky made out of clouds...imagine that ! She's not even two yet...

Its tough coz its also Chinese New Year at the same time. I cannot wish anyone or celebrate the occasion...i cannot also visit friends or any house with sickly elders for fear of affecting them.

Its the first year for my mother to not cook dad's favorite dishes, mom reflects alot these days....

I hope she can cope well as time goes by...we can never forget him as a dad,husband and loved one. But we can think of the better times and memmories we had of him.

Dad....rest in peace...i'll try to feel the void you left and i know it ain't gonna be easy.

Jason Yap (your son)